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I read a recent article, suggesting that

the nicest guys in a society are selected last by females.

The article continues to indetify the cause as a lack of agressive nature and competetiveness, as desirable traits.

I was wondering if there were any pyschology studies exploring this topic, or any further explanation to shed light on this topic.

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Could you edit in a citation or hyperlink for this article? –  Nick Stauner Jun 20 '14 at 6:22
I can tell you that there are many books but are not scientific. I've studied the topic by myself for some years, but I'm not a professionist. I would suggest you to read PUA books after reading some on cognitive psychology. –  Revious Jun 20 '14 at 8:43
That sort of gross generalisation over vague categories identifies the source as journalistic (at best), not scientific. There is of course a bunch of research on social dominance and sexual selection, but nobody would conclude from that that the nicest guys are selected last. –  jona Jun 20 '14 at 9:21
However this this theory does not appear to be on a completely false premise. This may be evolutionary during early humanity where being 'nice' would have little benefits whilst aggression would be considered a desirable trait. Whilst journalistic views on this arise from exaggerations- there might be science behind this! –  Monacraft Jun 21 '14 at 8:12
It has been repeatedly shown that women find dominant, aggressive men more erotic than wimps. But it has also been repeatedly shown that women do chose nice, supportive partners for long term relationships, instead of machos. So what is an advantage in on area is obviously a disadvantage in another. Just look at the married men in your sourroundings. I'd guess most of them are just regular nice guys. Also, selection is not a one-sides process. Men select, too. So maybe the bitch and the macho select each other, while the nice guy and the nice girl select each other. That's what I observe. –  what Jun 21 '14 at 13:08

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