That's simple. Many celebrities commit suicide, or are drug addicts. Why? They have the money, they have the lover, they have the fans, they have the fame, the power. They have it all. Do they? No, that's not the case.
Lets define happiness; we don't know what happiness is, but we do know:
- It's not about the money
- It's not about the fame, the power
- It's not about love. Or is it? I'll discuss that in a minute.
- The suicide rate is higher in developed, not poor countries, that means the rich are less happy than the poor. I live in Lebanon, a small country next to Syria and Israel, it's shitty here, and we are ranked I think as the 10th happiest population :)
I'll talk about love in a bit, but lets talk about happiness in general; if all the things listed above doesn't make you happy, what does?
What makes you happy (I believe) is the hope for a better day. When you lose the hope, you lose everything you ever had; you lose the reason for staying alive.
Why isn't Stephen Hawking sad? Because he continues to discover new things, people appreciate these things, it makes him happy and hopeful that one day he'll be regarded as the greatest scientist. He doesn't care about money. What could he do with money? Go to a club, get a beer?
Lets talk about celebrities, they have everything, it's not good, because when you say, "I have everything," what you really mean is, "I have nothing else to do."
George Eastman, founder of the Kodak corporation and inventor of the "snap-shot" camera, shot himself in the heart after leaving a note reading: "To my friends: My work is done, why wait?"
Those who think that their work is done, are less happy.
Wait a second! This question is about love.
Lets ask two questions:
- When do people want get married?
- Why do they want to get married?
I've never been in love; I'm not romantic, but the answer is pretty easy.
The answer to the first question, you can have a girlfriend forever. People tend to want to get married when they are financially stable, and therefore they want to start a family.
The answer to the second question is because they want to start a family, AKA have kids.
Why the hell would they want that? Well yes, there's love and all that silly stuff :) but I'm answering a philosophical question, I have to have a better answer than that shit :)
I don't know about you, but in my society, when the women are like 28 years old and not in love, other women start to tell them "Go on, what are you waiting for? Marry anyone; have kids; you don't want to be alone all your life; no one will marry you if you can't have kids."
- Think of life as a video game: you pass a level, you go to another level, just like Super Mario, and finally he rescues the princess!
Being in love – I mean the state where you dream about the other person and can't eat or sleep – is only temporary. When you get married, it's routine. Kids are the next challenge for you; you hope that your kids will grow up; you hope that they graduate; that's hope I talked about above; every day there's new challenge. Those who can't continue the game will quit, divorce or something.
But it's not her, your wife, that's making you happy; the best that she can do is raise your self esteem, encouraging you, but notice it's all about you.
No one would love someone that doesn't make him happy, in the sense that if you're a programmer, you can't love someone who hates programmers and keep calling them nerds sitting in front of a laptop all day; the other person will be lowering your self esteem.
But you can't expect someone to make you happy, as I discussed above; happiness is about you fulfilling your dreams, challenging yourself. How can your partner fulfill your dreams if you never had a dream?