# Pathological distress caused by being discouraged to say “thanks” on online communities

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Given some people are taught from a preschool age to express thanks and this practice is reinforced throughout a lifetime. So coming to an online community can be difficult for some people not to express thanks.

What is happening psychologically when an individual has immense discomfort (to a point of preferring the discomfort of not complying with the wishes of an online community), that is almost compulsive in having to continue with an instilled social habit, such as expressing thanks.

Nb To me, it could be related to cognitive-dissonance, but this doesn't seem to be the correct term.

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thank you for asking this :) –  ladislas Oct 8 '13 at 7:32
@ladislas you are most very welcome, please feel free to ask any questions, even if it is for your own curiosity (aka personal needs) you can ask in the guise of a generalised question.. there are people who do that here :) –  user3543 Oct 8 '13 at 7:37

I Joe want Marc to know that 'I, Joe' am thankful.